Friday, August 19, 2011
This post is way overdue but there is no time better than right as people are leaving for college to go ahead and share my thoughts on this issue. First off im going to establish my view on what a comfort zone is. A comfort zone in my opinion is the normal routine one goes through that they become so used to that it inhibits them from enjoying any experience outside of their norm. So first off its pretty obvious that by not experiencing new things you are really only stopping yourself from seeing life from a different perspective or having a great night you will never forget ( whatever that means to you ) whether its watching a movie youve never seen before or hitting up a friend you dont normally hang out with there should really be nothing stopping you from doing so because it could be the start of something great. whenever going into a new experience outside of your comfort zone like this make sure that you dont stop yourself from enjoying the time you spend doing it by getting caught up on the other things you would rather be doing. Its much easier to sit in the corner and pity yourself for either putting yourself into a situation you dont want to be in or even if you are dragged into a situation you dont want to be in but much harder than that is to look at yourself from someone else who is enjoying themselves' perspective. You may see yourself as being true to who you really are, but why limit yourself to who you are? The much more progressive choice is to never stop becoming who you can be. What i mean by that is by broadening your horizons you can have those experiences first then later decide whether you want to experience them again. A great way to enhance your chances of enjoying yourself is by initiating the experience it will make all the difference to how people perceive you and make the world a better place by creating a positive environment where people will always feel a sense of belonging. Applied to a college setting its much easier for me to explain my point. When new freshmen are all incoming there are very few students who come into school thinking about all the awesome times they are gonna have and the much more likely attitude is that they are leaving all of their friends to an ocean of unknown people who they probably have nothing in common with. The problem with this is that whether you realize it or not probability is on your side. At a common college there are thousands of students compared to the hundreds that attended your high school so your chances of relating with another person in college are actually much greater. This goes back to the constant fear of the unknown that all humans inherently possess. The majority see the unknown and think i guarantee there will be no one like me in college so im just going to try and stay connected with the people i know from high school and keep my comfort zone in tact. But college is a great place where you can change anything about yourself, you can truly be exactly who you are and chances are you will be able to find at least one person who shares many of the same interests. So I guess i can sum up that really lengthy run-on paragraph up into one sentence. Never stop yourself from growing and always be open because who you are now will never be who you are in the future, the only thing you can count on in life is change and college is the perfect place for that. Swag.
Saturday, August 6, 2011
After a long break i think its finally time to make a return with a post ive had on my mind for a while but never really thought about voicing until I started using stumbleupon. If you dont know what that is its basically the best thing of all things ever, it takes your interests and creates a personalized google for everything you should care about and present them to you one after another, i cant stress how awesome it is it is basically the internet on steroids. Well anyway before i get too off track i stumbled upon multiple sites talking about how the two sexes are supposed to act in social situations and of course there is a lot of truth to the differences between men and women because of the chemical and genetic differences but this has almost nothing to do with the way our minds work. What im talking about is the way men and women are supposed to act around their friends, from the way they behave, the things they talk about, and the activities they take part in. We've all seen the bias that men are supposed to watch sports and talk to their friends about the game the next day to get off a testosterone high while they all get chubs from that catch or the dunk shaq had. But why do we have to be limited to that mindless banter? Sports promote a community where there is actually none to be had, they make you think you have a connection with someone who you may have nothing in common with and people love finding that they have something to talk about, a universal go to if you run out of conversation topics. But more and more this mentality is taking over male converse and whenever someone has no fucking clue what the others are talking about they are obviously a fag, right? Because that is the only sensible conclusion, what other reason would they have to not participate in watching a pointless sporting competition that is repeated almost every night of the week? Well the truth is that you are becoming lemmings from the pressure to participate, no one likes to feel left out so they pretend to enjoy watching sports at first until they watch so much that they fool their mind into believing they actually love them. But when it really boils down to it who are the truly fun/rememberable people that you talk to? The ones that you sit outside at night with look up at the sky and contemplate your existence, or the cool guys who all group around the cool locker/frat house/water cooler/bar/whateverreallyoldguyshuddlearoundandtalkaboutsports? Now i know this might be a hard question for those who are already brainwashed into watching communityball (my new name for sports solely based around the community aspect) but i guarantee you will feel much more accomplished and actually enjoy yourself if you start thinking rather than mimicing. So please next time you start to get dragged into a sports talk change the topic to something actually worth talking about and if you get called a fag or pansy just realize how little you will actually learn from that talk and go learn something. Also i was going to talk about the stigma of a girl but its late, im tired, and nobody reads this shit anywhere its more just me venting and people not reading. But thats fine it works for me and i have fun so if you have a problem with me posting this on facebook or wherever i post it go ahead and call me out id love to hear you bitching at me than the (insert sports team of your choice) game. Also facebook fights create great pubilicity so I actually encourage you to start shit with me on facebook, looking forward to fighting with you in the comment section!